{"id":13276,"date":"2020-07-19T18:31:14","date_gmt":"2020-07-19T16:31:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dobermandan.com\/blog\/?p=13276"},"modified":"2020-07-19T18:31:14","modified_gmt":"2020-07-19T16:31:14","slug":"how-to-be-happy-even-when-youre-around-miserable-people","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dobermandan.com\/blog\/how-to-be-happy-even-when-youre-around-miserable-people\/","title":{"rendered":"How to be happy even when you\u2019re around miserable people…"},"content":{"rendered":"

Maybe it\u2019s just me.<\/p>\n

Maybe I\u2019m the only person who sometimes allows other people to bring me down.<\/p>\n

Has something like this ever happened to you?<\/p>\n

You start out in the morning feeling great. You set your intention to have a great day and allow this feeling to continue all day long.<\/p>\n

Then you run into\u00a0that<\/em>\u00a0guy or gal. You know the one. The dude or dudette who always sucks the air outta the room.<\/p>\n

Maybe it\u2019s even someone with whom you cohabitate.<\/p>\n

Then they say or do something that rubs you the wrong way. (Like they always seem to do.) And just like a pin to a balloon, there goes your good mood.<\/p>\n

Does that ever happen to you?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not gonna lie to ya. I can\u2019t say that I\u2019ve mastered feeling good regardless of circumstances… and\/or the influence negative people. But I sure am a heckuva lot better than in years past.<\/p>\n

Mostly because I\u2019ve discovered a secret. And that secret is THIS:<\/p>\n

How I feel is solely up to me.<\/p>\n

Because I am 100% in control of my mind.<\/p>\n

Negative people can only make me feel bad if I allow them.<\/p>\n

And if YOU would also like to feel happy even when you\u2019re around miserable people, allow me to share a few things. Stuff I\u2019ve learned from visiting this planet over the past half a century and having a lot of different experiences… with a lot of different people.<\/p>\n

You see, there\u2019s an inescapable fact in this physical world. You can\u2019t have a physical experience until you\u2019ve created it first in thought.<\/p>\n

This ain\u2019t no woo-woo \u201csit on your ass and the universe will rain money\u201d B.S.<\/p>\n

And I can prove it.<\/p>\n

As a matter of fact, quantum physics has proven it.<\/p>\n

You can go DEEP down\u00a0that<\/em>\u00a0rabbit hole if ya want (that\u2019s what I did.) But if you just want the Readers Digest version, here it is:<\/p>\n

You never actually experience a world \u201cout there.\u201d All you TRULY experience is your own nervous system.<\/p>\n

This is a physiological FACT.<\/p>\n

A brief sidetrack:<\/p>\n

I\u2019d LOVE to go deeper into this topic with you. In fact, I\u2019ve been considering it. I\u2019ve been thinking about publishing some materials on this topic… and possibly doing a YouTube channel, too.<\/p>\n

But not just useless theory. I\u2019d like to share how you can apply this stuff to your life so you can create more happiness, more success… and if you\u2019re one of them, there greedy capitalists, more money.<\/p>\n

Is that something you\u2019d be interested in? If so, click the “contact me” link above and let me know.<\/p>\n

Onward.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what I do when something, or most likely SOMEONE starts to piss me off or make me feel bad.<\/p>\n

First of all, here\u2019s what I\u00a0used<\/em>\u00a0to do:<\/p>\n

I used to try and monitor my thoughts. But seeing as how we have 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts per day, that\u2019s pretty much impossible.<\/p>\n

BTW, of those thousands of thoughts, 80% are negative. And 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before. So is it any wonder that things almost NEVER change or get better for the majority of folks?<\/p>\n

Anyhoo, that\u2019s why I rarely try to monitor my thoughts anymore. It’s like trying to catch a gnat in a tornado.<\/p>\n

Nowadays I monitor my FEELINGS. Because feelings are an accurate indicator of my thoughts. Because I\u2019ve discovered that my thoughts create my feelings. And my feelings affect my actions.<\/p>\n

Make sense? Still with me?<\/p>\n

Good!<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why when I feel uplifted, I make a mental note — and sometimes a physical note on paper — about that which uplifts me. That way I can remember it. Then, when I specifically want to feel uplifted, I use that as a \u2018touchstone\u2019 to my happiness.<\/p>\n

Simple, huh?<\/p>\n

You see, I\u2019ve discovered that I can be happy under all conditions if I\u2019m clear enough and strong enough in directing my attention to what I want. Which, in this example, is happiness.<\/p>\n

Sure, simple in theory. Not always easy though.<\/p>\n

So I\u2019m not gonna lie to ya. It\u00a0is<\/em>\u00a0more difficult to remain happy or positive when you\u2019re surrounded by people who are unhappy, negative and hateful.<\/p>\n

But here\u2019s the thang…<\/p>\n

While you might have an experience that only lasts maybe five or ten minutes… and while that experience might be unpleasant and uncomfortable… the majority of your negative emotions don\u2019t come from the few minutes of that negative experience. They come from all the hours you spend ruminating on it inside your noggin AFTER the experience.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been a MASTER of that my entire life. And I can tell ya from LOTS of experience, it just makes EVERYTHING suck.<\/p>\n

But here\u2019s the GOOD news:<\/p>\n

The majority of your negative emotions can be eliminated if you invest some \u2018alone time\u2019 focusing on what you want instead of thinking about the negative person\/event. (This is when I think about my \u201ctouchstone\u201d thangs I told you about a minute ago.)<\/p>\n

In other words, my experience has shown that it\u2019s of BIG TIME value for you to give your conscious attention to what you want. Which, in this case is to feel good. Otherwise, you can be pretty easily swept up by the influence of people and circumstances which surround you.<\/p>\n

This way, YOU are determining the thoughts that are important to you. Instead of allowing yourself to be stimulated by another\u2019s thoughts that may or may not be what you want.<\/p>\n

Oh, one more thang:<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve found it useless to try to erase those negative thoughts. Because whatever you resist becomes stronger.<\/p>\n

Or in the worst case, that which you fight, you become.<\/p>\n

So rather than trying to erase the past, focus on the present. Give thought to what you want NOW.<\/p>\n

In\u00a0extremely<\/em>\u00a0negative situations, if you still feel bad after doing all this stuff, try this:<\/p>\n

Rather than trying to change your thoughts, distract yourself.<\/p>\n

In other words, go take a nap, watch a movie, listen to music, snuggle with your dog… do something that will change your thoughts by distracting you from the negative.<\/p>\n

Look, everyone has the right to be, do or have whatever they want. And there are times when you allow their actions to affect you… and it makes you feel bad. That\u2019s normal. You\u2019re human.<\/p>\n

However, you\u00a0also<\/em>\u00a0have the right to be, do or have whatever YOU want.<\/p>\n

And THAT, my revered reader, is the secret to being happy even when you\u2019re around miserable people.<\/p>\n

All the best,
\nDoberman Dan<\/p>\n

P.S. One last thang about being happy…<\/p>\n

Although it shouldn\u2019t be this way, I\u2019ve discovered something about myself. And I bet YOU feel the same way, too…<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a lot more difficult to be happy if I don\u2019t have a predictable, dependable and somewhat significant \u2018stream of wealth.\u2019<\/p>\n

After all my entrepreneurial struggles and successes over the past three decades, I\u2019ve discovered that the very BEST way to create that predictable, dependable and somewhat significant \u2018stream of wealth\u2019 is simple.<\/p>\n

Because I know a secret to doing that. And if you CLICK HERE, I\u2019ll reveal all the exciting details.<\/a><\/p>\n

Pax vobiscum.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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